Did you make a resolution this year? If you did, are you already beating yourself up or thinking self-defeating thoughts? Apparently fewer people are bothering with the age-old tradition because they have failed to be successful in the past.
According to a recent article by Jared Gilmour in the Sacramento Bee, if you didn’t make a resolution, you are not alone. “Maybe that’s why only about 40 percent of Americans make a New Year’s resolution each year, according to polling from the Marist Institute for Public Opinion. And, the success rate for those resolutions don’t exactly inspire, either. Only about 46 percent of resolution makers were still sticking to their resolution six months into the year, a 2002 study in the Journal of Clinical Psychology found.”
When I read Mr. Gilmour’s article, I thought once again about the one-size-fits all approach and the well-meaning advice we often get from others who are not wired like us. The last letter of your Personality Type is either “J” (Judging) or “P” (Perceiving). This letter reflects how we prioritize things in our life and so I believe it might hold the key to keeping resolutions.
For Personality Types ending in “J,” structure is usually a way of life. Judgers tend to like planning things out, knowing what is coming next and they often dislike surprises. A resolution, by definition, requires change – doing something you are not currently doing, or stopping something that you are currently doing. For Judgers, change needs to be institutionalized into the schedule of their daily lives. If you resolve to go to the gym, you have to decide when and where you will go and make a commitment to it. Think about your day. Is there a time when things are more likely to get off track by the actions or priorities of others? Putting your gym time in a slot that is often “thrown into a cocked hat” makes it easy to blow it off. So, carefully plan your gym time. Is first thing in the morning better? Or lunch? After work or after dinner? You know your life better than anyone and when you decide to make your resolution a priority, it will get done! If your resolution is to eat healthier then decide when you will plan your meals and build your shopping list. Develop strategies for eating out so you already know what to do when you get to your favorite restaurant. Remember what you plan is what you do; there are no accidents with you! Oh, one other thing – be realistic with your resolution! A resolution to “Go to the gym at least 3 days a week” might be more realistic that “Go to the gym everyday.” If you want to eat healthier, focus on how much better you feel. You get the point, develop a realistic plan and incorporate it into your routine.
For Personality Types ending with “P,” a totally different approach is in order. Perceivers usually prefer spontaneity and are bored with or dislike too much routine. The “J” approach described above usually doesn’t last long. Perceivers need inspiration! So ask what can you do to stay inspired? Deciding to make a resolution with a friend can help. Set up a competition if you are the competitive type or make your gym time a social time with your friend(s) if that sounds like more fun. If you are wanting to eat healthier, browse the internet for exciting new recipes to try each week and make it exciting rather than a chore. Again, consider partnering up or joining a group or on-line community to stay motivated and inspired.
Let me know how you are doing! RuthESchneider@aol.com
An Article by David S Prudhomme and Ruth E Schneider
Stress is often misunderstood. Some people think of stress as “Good” – spurring them to action, or “Bad” – paralyzing them and keeping them from action. In fact, all stress is an undesirable automatic reaction that with awareness can be shifted.
Stress is an automatic “in-born” response to a situation or circumstance that is different from a person’s “hard-wired” personal preferences. It’s a natural undesirable physiological and psychological reaction that adversely affect the mind and body.
Studies are now showing that stress causes or exacerbates 85% of all illness, and that it is the root cause of many problems from relationship issues, to smoking, weight gain, pain, sleeplessness, physical illness, addictions, anxiety and depression. So each individual is born with “predetermined” preferences that dictate their patterns of stress and their unique reactions to stress.
The good news is those natural preferences can be easily and accurately measured. Each personal preference has the potential for causing an “automatic” stress response. Once you understand what causes you stress, you can easily stop the “hard-wired” reaction and choose a different response – one that works for you!
So, where does stress come from? All stress starts with a “thought”; it is usually pining about the past or worrying about the future. The truth is you cannot change the past nor can you control the future. You live in the “present moment”. Every thought you have, every emotion you experience, and every behavior you choose – all happen in the present moment. You cannot control the weather, the economy, your friends, your co-workers, your spouse, or any member of your family. What you can control is YOU.
All stress, regardless of the source, causes an immediate “Fight or Flight” response in the body and the mind. A cascade of physical and mental changes take place. Your adrenaline levels go up, causing your mind to start the “gerbil wheel” of racing thoughts.
Your cortisol levels go up and cortisol is a stress hormone that causes your body to stop burning fat. Your blood pressure goes up, your blood sugar goes up, and your immune system is negatively affected. Your hormones become unbalanced. When your body is producing “stress” hormones like cortisol and adrenaline, it cannot produce adequate amounts of “good” hormones such as oxytocin and serotonin (for the female) and testosterone and dopamine (for the male).
Your metabolism is negatively impacted. Your digestion is slowed and you absorb fewer nutrients.
Your risk for heart attack, stroke, diabetes and cancer all go up. You are more likely to experience frequent headaches; or be diagnosed with Fibromyalgia or Chronic Fatigue.
And, medical conditions are magnified by stress, stressed people report having more pain, and those with chronic illnesses report having more flare-ups or symptoms when they are stressed. All of these physical and mental responses are “hard-wired” into the body and mind; they happen automatically.
In fact, even if you “imagine” something negative happening in the future, your mind and body react as if it is “really” happening. Most of us are taught, at an early age, to “worry” about the worst possible thing that could happen, so that if it does happen we are “ready” for it. In fact that does not work at all. The problem is we are actually causing ourselves stress rather than preparing ourselves to handle the worst case scenario. The fact is that most of the things you worry about never actually happen, but your body and mind already think they did.
Many people have been operating under “stress” for so long they don’t even realize it. The human body and mind are not designed to be stressed all day long! Yet with the current fast-paced culture and lifestyles of most people, that is exactly what is happening.
Chronic stress is now being recognized by the scientific and medical communities as one of the main causes of illness. And some medical professionals now believe that reducing stress may be even more important than stopping smoking to ensure their clients’ health and well-being.
The Three Most Important Things You Can Do – and Do NOW!
First, recognize you are stressed and choose to do something about it. Two, begin a practice of daily deep breathing, taking 10 deep yoga or belly breathes at least 7 times a day, this causes an automatic “relaxation response” in your body and your mind. Three, talk with your doctor and/or stress reduction consultant about programs available that will address your needs. For example, our program, From Stressed to Best™, is being used by individuals, couples/families, small businesses as well as P&G, educators, wellness practitioners and medical professionals.
FROM STRESSED TO BEST™
The Four-Step Program – for Each Personality Type
From Stressed to Best™ provides you with a Four-Step Program, tailored to your distinct Personality Type, which will guide you into understanding HOW to return to your “Best Mode” of operating. You will learn HOW you can go from your “Stress Mode” to your “Best Mode” and improve your effectiveness in every relationship in your life, personally and professionally. Take back control of your life.
People think differently so “one size” does not fit all. When you understand how another person thinks, you can more easily: Communicate with them, Motivate them, and Help them reach their full potential.
What If You Could Help People:
- Reduce stress and feel better.
- Improve every relationship in their lives, personal and professional.
- Easily understand why others don’t think like they do and see it as a benefit instead of a frustration.
- Return balance, happiness and success to their lives.
Let us teach you how!
Attend one of our Two Day Certification Class taught by the authors of From Stressed To Best
What you will learn:
- The 4 hard-wired, in-born personality preferences as defined by the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) which is used successfully in corporations throughout the world.
- The 16 different Personality Types that are a result of these in-born preferences.
- Your own Personality Type and your hard-wired strengths.
- The strengths of people who have preferences different from yours.
- The underlying causes of stress.
- The effects stress has on the mind and the body.
- Your Best Mode of operating and your driving force for living a happy and productive life.
- Your automatic Stress Mode of operating and why you behave as you do when stressed.
- Increased awareness and understanding of individual differences.
- How to use this knowledge to improve every relationship in your life.
- Learn to stop your automatic stress responses and switch From Stressed To Best™.
- Understand all 8 Stress Modes and be able to recognize examples of each.
- Understand all 8 Best Modes and recognize the strengths of each.
- Understand and begin to recognize the Best Modes and Stress Modes of others.
- Understand and recognize when others are stressed and how to best help them switch From Stressed To Best.
Two full days of training with the authors and certification as a
From Stressed To Best™ Stress Management Specialist.
We are now offering our From Sressed to Best™ package to Personality Type Practitioners as well as those in other helping professions.
From Stressed to Best™ is a complete, easy to use system designed to help you work more effectively with clients of all Personality Types. And most importantly, it will help you be more effective, in both your practice and your life.
Ruth E Schneider and David S Prudhomme developed the From Stressed to Best™ system while working with real clients. They recently decided to document their process and share it with other professionals.
Now you too can use this powerful system to help your clients overcome stress and build happier more satisfying lives.
The Package includes:
Determine any Clients Personality Type Using a Simple Intake Form – A 4 page form you can add to your intake forms. It is reproducible – easily determine the Personality Type of EVERY client.
- Script Book – Personality Based Suggestions for Each of the 16 Personality Types – Powerful Hypnosis/Meditation scripts for stress reduction and confidence/self-esteem building by Personality Type.
- Detailed Summaries for Each of the 16 Personality Types: Strengths Stressors and Suggestions – Use the appropriate summary to better understand every client and give a copy to the client to help them better understand themselves.
- How to Work More Effectively with ALL 16 PERSONALITY TYPES – A guide for helping you understand how to work with clients, who are either the same or opposite from your in-born tendencies.
- A Guide to Understanding the Eight Stress Modes – Use this guide to help your client switch from their Stress Mode to their Best Mode. Easy to use charts help you identify signs of stress for each Personality Type and give you specific strategies and suggestions you can use to help your client regain control, now and forever.
Items 2 through 5 can be ordered on-line by clicking on the Titles above.
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Take your practice to the next level!
The From Stressed To Best™ Stress Reduction Guides for each Type are now available on Amazon.
These 16, full-color books each include a helpful primer on Personality Type and a chart of all 16 Types. Then each book describes (in words and pictures) how the hard-wiring for the named Type works. The driving force, four signature strengths for that Type and stress reduction recommendations specifically developed for that Type follow. Finally, the book details the From Stressed To Best™ easy to follow, 4-step process for using the information unique to the Personality Type to shift out of stress at any time.
These books are designed to be given to clients and to serve as self-help guides that are colorful, compelling and easy to use.
For the desk reference containing the same information for all 16 Personality Types, click here.
Are you stressed? It seems nearly everyone is these days. Looking for a way to effectively deal with it? Our revolutionary stress reduction program, already being used around the world, is now available in a new self-help book. This plain talk guide will help you reduce your everyday stress and improve every relationship in your life. It is a proven system; it works!
Because people are different, a “one-size-fits-all” approach to stress reduction simply will not work. Instead, From Stressed to Best uses definable personality differences to pinpoint specific, individualized steps to reduce stress.
You will determine your individual Personality Type using the self-assessment included. This will provide the foundation for determining what stresses you and how to effectively deal with it.
You will learn a 4-step process for recognizing the onset of your stress, stopping it and reversing it.
You will get immediate results by reducing your stress. And your new understanding of Personality Types will also improve your personal and professional relationships.
Here is one of the many testimonials we have received:
“I now understand my strengths and stressors, and have the ability to shift out of stress in an instant which allows me to be more productive with less stress. It has improved my communication with all my loved ones, friends, and even strangers because of my understanding of the personality types. Life has become much easier, personally and professionally, since I have been exposed to the Stressed to Best program. I could go on and on describing all the ways this program has changed my life and my practice. This program is a game changer!” — John Weir, author and Sports Improvement Coach
Rudy recently posted this: “Today, on my 79th birthday, I WILL conquer the driveway!”
Rudy is INTJ! What is the Driving Force of the INTJ Personality Type? To work relentlessly toward flawless implementation of a complex vision! OR, as I like to say about Rudy, To ACCOMPLISH what others only dream about – no matter what!
INTJs have Extraverted Thinking — that is what you first notice about them. They love logic and like to share their Thinking. Their Best mode, however, is Introverted iNtuition! They are much more open than they appear to be – absorbing information like a sponge – even when they are arguing about its voracity. All of this information “incubates” in their brains and then: “Ah hah!” They know EXACTLY what to do to solve a complicated problem. INTJs are approximately 1% of the population — and they like it that way! (Well, they do wish that others would catch on faster……)
When stressed, the INTJ loses his perspective and his optimism about accomplishment. He becomes bogged down by a detail that seems insurmountable. As difficult as it is for them, learning to walk away from the problem is the best way to solve it. Rudy says he solves his biggest problems in his sleep and they come together in the morning shower. That’s how his Introverted iNtuition works. When he gets away from a problem, his brain connects all the dots and a solution appears. “Of course! Now I know EXACTLY what to do!”
Rudy Platzer, MA, BS, ACI, approved this story about him.